Anxiety is an inevitable part of life and there are times when it is appropriate and reasonable to be anxious. Anxiety becomes a problem when it is experienced too intensely for a situation, doesn't go away or interferes with your life. Symptoms of anxiety can range in severity from a sense of uneasiness to a full-blown panic attack marked by shortness of breath, heart palpitations, trembling, sweating, nausea, numbness, and fear of dying or losing control. Therapy provides an opportunity to develop cognitive, behavioural and mindfulness strategies to modify unhelpful ways of thinking and feeling, and reduce rumination and avoidance.
Depression is not caused by any one thing but is likely due to a combination of factors influencing one another. Symptoms of depression range in intensity and often include sadness, a loss of energy, loss of interest in activities or life, changes in appetite, difficulty concentrating, self-criticism, difficulty making decisions, feelings of hopelessness, withdrawal from others, irritability, physical pains, and sometimes suicidal thoughts. Therapy helps you better understand the role of your thoughts, feelings and behaviours as well as your environment and psychology in the development of your depression. Conceptualizing your depression provides insight into how to best intervene to optimize improvements in mood and functioning.
Ways Counselling Can Help
- Process and resolve depression and/or anxiety
- Build confidence and self-esteem
- Overcome conflicts and strengthen your relationship
- Address relationship issues including communication, conflict, emotional intimacy, sexual intimacy, infidelity (including internet affairs), infertility, child/teen-rearing and blended families
- Learn to understand and manage emotions
- Quieten your mind and stop obsessive thinking
- Develop effective communications with others
- Manage or eliminate stress
- Overcome addiction
- Acquire a calm and centred approach to life
- Stop negative thoughts and negative self-talk
- Process and resolve previous life issues
- Set and achieve life goals
- Find purpose and meaning for your life
Consider these questions:
- Are you feeling overwhelmed with stress?
- Are you trying to make an important life decision?
- Have you been struggling with Anxiety and/or Depression?
- Are you (or someone close to you) dealing with Addiction?
- Do you have past trauma that continues to negatively affect you?
- Are you experiencing conflict with friends, your partner, family members, co-workers or other people in your life?
- Have you (or someone close to you) been diagnosed with an Anxiety Disorder, Depression, ADHD, or Personality Disorder?
- Do you have concerns regarding any behavioural, social, occupational or emotional problems in your life?
If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, then it may be time to make an appointment with a qualified professional to explore these situations in more detail.
What is Anxiety?
Anxiety disorder has become one of the most common reasons for people seeking a therapist. Everyone experiences anxiety in some form in his or her life. When anxiety starts to interfere with your normal daily activities, and becomes a chronic state it is time too seek professional help. Anxiety can cause problems with concentration; stomaches, fear, worry and problems focusing and life can become overwhelming this can affect a persons ability to lead a normal life. There are many ways anxiety can be triggered; it can be how someone interprets a situation, what people say to themselves when they are faced with a challenging situation and their ability to cope.
Although, there are normal levels of anxiety for people in daily life we need to understand that when it causes us an impairment that affects our social, work, school that makes us feel unable to control feelings you may be experiencing anxiety.
Anxiety can run in the family therefore, when a person has a predisposition life stress can bring your level of anxiety to the surface. Therefore, if you think you are experiencing anxiety I can help. I have many years of clinical experience using evidence base methods that have been proven to be effective.
Examples of Anxiety
General Anxiety are those who worry and usually feel irritable, trouble sleeping and feel that they need to control everything but do not have the strategies to deal with unpredictable situations that may arise. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy teaches the client to regain a healthy control and lessen the negative thoughts that sometimes cycles in our mind. CBT is one of the most effective treatments for anxiety, and you can be taught ways to think and cope more positively and start to feel better about everyday activities.
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is an anxiety disorder where people experience unwanted thoughts that are unpleasant. These thoughts occupy our mind and can cause impairment in our daily tasks; these obsessive thoughts make us feel not in control and scared. When someone has an obsession and want to decrease their anxiety, they find rituals …. For example if you have a fear of germs you may wash your hands extensively instead of taking care of daily responsibilities. I can provide you with support, techniques and strategies to make your goals achievable and help change mind set.
Social Anxiety is when social settings make a person feel nervous and uncomfortable and have a fear that they will not say or do the right thing causing you to feel embarrassed or unsure with social cues. If you have experienced difficulties speaking in public, meeting new people or social events therapy can teach you how to become more comfortable and secure. You may be experiencing symptoms like stomachache, dry mouth, heart racing or hard to breath but we can work on coping skills to help over come these feelings. People who suffer from social anxiety tend to avoid activities like school or social gatherings but therapy can teach you how to become more self-aware, changing negative thoughts in turn feeling more empowered.
Separation Anxiety is when children have to leave their safe zone their parents or caregiver and change their familiar environment and do something new out of the comfort zone. The fear is real for children who refuse to go to school and want to sleep in their parent’s bed and say “my tummy hurts”, “I hear noises in my room” or “I am afraid to sleep alone”. Parents this is a normal stage for children but also important to teach the child how to manage this feeling of being anxious and learning how to deal with fear a skill that will help them even later on in life. Let’s build on their strengths and teach them self-confidence.
What is Depression?
Depression is not simply a mood change; it is a medical condition that has emotional, physical, behavioral and cognitive symptoms. The facts of depression are women are more likely than men to experience depression, people who have family history are more likely to develop depression, and those with chronic illness may be more susceptible to depression even though people are aware how common an illness depression is, they do not seek treatment because we are afraid of people judging us.
Types of Depression
- Seasonal depression which is temporary occurs when there is a loss of daylight it happen during the winter months in Canada and when spring comes sprits begin to lift
- Postpartum depression can happen after a birth of a child when a woman’s hormone dip profoundly, this may cause depression linked to shifts in hormones
- Bereavement can be a painful process but know grieving is normal feeling in response to a loss or death. When there is a significant loss it can trigger depression that can last for weeks, months and even years.
Common Depression Risk Factors
There are factors that may cause depression alone or in combination it can be family history that runs in the family or chemical imbalance in the brain and if you have a traumatic event in your life like abuse, divorce or family violence.
- Also women are more likely to suffer depression than men
- Increased work demands can cause depression
- Chronic illness
- Substance abuse such as drugs and alcohol
Signs to Watch For
- "I don’t think life is worth living"
- "I always feel sad"
- "I don’t enjoy family and friends"
- "I have no energy"
- "I don’t feel hungry"
- "My stomach hurts"
- "I have trouble sleeping"
Depression can impair your ability to think and can effect memory and it can also change our behavior once a person who was cheerful and out going begins to show less interest in daily activities.